Women Don't Focus on Looks Like as Much as Men Do
If you believe that you will never get to date beautiful women in you are lifetime, you are already setting yourself up for failure. Lack of optimism and self-confidence will lead to self-limiting beliefs, which will lead to pre-determined let downs. Simply put: If you believe you’re a loser, you’ll act like a loser and never be a winner. But if you do the opposite and feel like a winner, you’ll act like a winner and win-win-win no matter what (cue the music).
Who is beautiful to you? Let’s see if we can agree on who is attractive: Selena Gomez? Ariana Grande? Vanessa Hudgens? Zendaya? Let’s look at what these beautiful women have in common, besides all having some kind of ethnic flavor:
· Long Hair
· Nice smiles
· Clear skin
Most men, with the exception of those with a variety of fetishes, can agree on who they find attractive. This is why every guy notices that one girl in the club who makes all their heads turn when she walks in. Watch the Ms. Universe contest and pay special attention to the swimsuit competition. You may have this epiphany: All Ms. Universe candidates, despite being of different nationalities, look alike. They all fit this description:
· Long Hair
· Nice Smile
· Clear Skin
Most men are shallow and seem to agree on who is beautiful. Luckily, women look deeper in determining what kind of man is attractive.
Don’t Think That Looks Are All That Matters
The stigma of being tall, dark and handsome like Ryan Reynolds and Adam Levine has always been attractive. But is there a chance that men who are short, fat, or old can be seen as attractive? Let’s find out:
· Prince, who stood at 5’2”, dated some of the most beautiful women in the world.
· Lil’ Wayne, 5’4”, with tight pants, dreadlocks and tattoos all over his face is sexy to some women.
· Heavy D, Fat Joe, Big Pun, and the Notorious BIG bragged about their exploits with women.
· Seal, afflicted with a type of lupus that caused scarring on his face, married supermodel Heidi Klum.
· Johnny Galecki, the head nerd from The Big Bang Theory, dated Kaley Cuoco for two years.
· Jeremy Lin got marriage proposals during his Linsanity run with the NY Knicks
· Cheez Escudero, 55 years old and divorced, married Filipino actress Heart Evangelista, 27
All the men on the list may be rich, talented, and famous, but at least you can begin to understand that being attractive is about more than height, weight, ethnicity, religion or age.
If you need to lose weight and get fit like most of the men on the list, then do it. If you need to make money like the men on the list, then start hustling. If you’re not talented, then work on a talent. I couldn’t dance to save my life. I still can’t dance, but I put in the effort. I learned meringue for a sweet-sixteen cotillion, participated in a hip-hop dance course for teenagers, and took Zumba class in the Philippines. I participated in all of these activities past the age of 21 in an effort to look like I had a clue on the dance floor (though I may still look clueless.)
Women are not attracted to downtrodden men who give up on themselves. They love men who are confident. Let’s be real: Who is a woman going to run to in tough times: A whiny bitch of a man who believes that the world is not fair or a man who has his shit together and can motivate other people to get their shit together?